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So the important part: Court happened, and we don't think anything has been changed about our current standing. In 3 more months, they should give legal and physical custody to us, and close out the case. End. If something has changed, we'll let you know.

On yelp, we got a review that I think pertains to me, but since no names are mentioned, it may not. I am, however, the only obese person at my job, period. Their review went like this:

I didn't enjoy my "thai" massage. It was half -assed, and I left still feeling stressed. I told the masseuse, (who was really over-weight) to focus on my shoulders and back because that's where the majority of my stress and knots were, and she barely massaged the areas. I felt uncomfortable with her style, and just wanted it to be over with, (not because she was overweight, but this factor definitely added to it). The mat also smelled like dirty laundry. I think I'll try out a real thai massage place elsewhere.

And my owner's reply went like this:

11/12/2014  We run a tight ship with training and sanitation.  I'm shocked to hear this.  These issues have been reviewed and fixed.  As far as your demeaning comment towards my staff, yes please go find somewhere else for your Thai massage.  We have a very positive atmosphere here and do not wish for bullies to be our clients. 

 Now it's totally possible they caught me on a bad day, and I do remember one memorable massage where I *did* forget the target area, and so I think perhaps it was me. But I don't like that they felt it was 'half-assed' and I really feel hurt that they 'just wanted it to be over with'.... That's not the type of massage I want to do. I think the dirty laundry comment is ridiculous though, because I always replace my towels and such properly, though they may have come at a time when an..... odoriferous client was using the sauna. That's the only really feasible explanation for that. For the bad day possibility: I generally work five days in a row. I had two memorable (not in a good way) weeks when every client in the door wanted the deepest pressure I could give, and I was exhausted by the end of the day each time. If someone came in, and my mind was already 'dead' for lack of a more descriptive phrase, it's possible. 
The one time I *did* forget the target area, I felt bad, but the client also refused to talk to me at all. I am not a mind reader, so if a client feels words to be unnecessary, they're digging their own grave. As I recall though, the client I remember this being about, actually fell asleep, so I don't think that client wrote this review. 

This song is fun. I liked it alot (especially the daydream/nightmare lyric)


Some other songs I've really been liking lately is Love Me Harder


And 'The Heart wants what it Wants'. This song.... I empathize, but I also feel like it's a dangerous song to let MJ listen to too often..... I love the way her voice changes, and the different cadences that blend together to make it such a seductive song.


Hubby recommends this one. I literally laughed my way through it: 


....I think I'm done. This is supposed to be short. 

Our Crybaby Princess

I've been asked to blog more... And this is the first topic I could think of. I honestly can not understand why she cries over everything. She cries over going up stairs. She cries over not getting the food she wants (sometimes). She cries over things we cannot change and cannot help her with. Essentially, she cries. Over things I would never cry over.
So my empathy is fairly low. I mean, sometimes I try to console her, but since that seems make her cry more (give her license to continue this crying indefinitely), I've taken to just silently waiting for her to get over it and be ready to talk.
When she starts spouting venom after crying (as is common), I refuse to engage until she's calmed down enough to be fair. Just as often, when she calms down, she gets really happy and in a good mood. Therefor, she acts bipolar. Considering her mom is bipolar, I think it's a strong possibility. And I just go with it. I still believe that a lot of her crying is helpful for getting her emotions recognized and released, but it doesn't mean it's not frustrating to me.
Also, interestingly enough, her class had a lesson on frustration and how to calm down. They had about six suggestions, one of which was 'take a step back and calm down' but MJ decided she had her own way of handling frustration and chose not to try any of those. She does, however, repeatedly sing the song her teachers taught them 'Stop! Name your emotion and caaalm down!' and it keeps getting stuck in my head. I don't need help naming my emotions, damn it. I know very well when I'm frustrated or angry.
Hmmmm.... Yesterday was the 3 month mark. Pineapples congratulated me on being a mom for three months and it took me by surprise, because I hadn't thought of it like that. But yes, three months of fighting with a child, and sometimes getting too frustrated with a child and sometimes having fun with a child.
I recognize that I haven't been giving MJ as much attention as she probably wants/needs, so that's something for me to work on. It's difficult because I always want to read, not pay attention to people. I may suggest that the family all crawls in bed together and reads their own book, but is still 'together' you know?
It's been a little shocking to look up from my own materials and see both Hubby and Child reading their own books quietly.
I think MJ craves approval. I'm not in the habit of being enthusiastically approving over little things, but if she needs that, I'll try to comply. My mom suggested something like that weeks ago, and I mentally scoffed at cooing to MJ 'Awwww! You brushed your teeth so well! Good job! Awwww, you picked out your clothes without asking! Good job!' but I think I'll start trying it. *sigh* It can't be worse than scolding her all the time. I am actually sick of scolding and arguing and punishing her. Honestly sick of it.
Speaking of sick, our little princess angel sweetie has gotten sick. Most likely strep (it's going around right now), and most likely gave it to me as well. Joy. I'll be taking her to the doctor this week to find out. Except her doctor doesn't have any appointments available online. Hrm. I'll have to call and see when I can bring her in, then. *sigh* And my phone is dying.
I can't think of much else going on right now. Oh, Hubbikins will be taking a trip home in January to see his ailing aunt. He asked my opinion, and it's simply 'Go.' especially since we don't have to pay for the travel. I'll miss him, but it's something that could give him some good closure.
Hmmmm..... I liked this song to start with, but lately it's just been a little annoying. I like the ideas behind it, since there's no silly 'She belongs TO me' nonsense, but I just don't think I like this boy band.



Oh, and this is HILARIOUS and I FULLY understand!!


Teehee?