New! Baby MAMA Drama....

So Cin has begun to clue in to how she is no longer MJ's parent, or at least, that's how it feels to her. Basically, my Facebook status went like this:

GRAR! THIS CHILD! Apparently I don't know how to tuck her in the way she likes. Hubby, apparently you spoil her! *feeling inadequate*  (Because Hubby had to go in after me and 'fix' it tonight)

Hubby and Cin and I had some friendly comments where Hubby and I ribbed at each other over spoiling her. Cin chimes in with a 'Awww. Look at you two sounding like parents....' and Hubby and I had to stop and blink. SOUND like? Bitch, we ARE. But I, unsure if she meant it in a hurtful way, refrained from commenting. Hubby, stating that it didn't matter if HE was mean, responded '*Raises eyebrow* I think we are parents as far as I'm concerned'.

Frankly, I agree with him. Her comment came off as condescending in a 'Look at you pretending to be parents' kind of way, and it was a little hurtful. Obviously we're her parents. We feed her, clothe her, love her, and discipline her. If Cin were dead, there would be no question from any person's point of view, yes we're her parents. But because Cin is alive (and kicking), she took that as an attack on her being MJ's mom. She responded with (I will quote):

And yeah, maybe it hurt her a little, but for her to deny that we're MJ's parents? That's a blow to me!

So I'm in boxing you this because I was extremely offended by the comment HUBBY posted......I'm not sure if it was meant the way I took it however I was giving you guys a compliment and found you guys conversation to be cute and my comment was a compliment and I don't understand or appreciate the response. To me that last comment was not only unnecessary but below the belt.......like I said I'm not sure how it was meant....it's obvious that you guys take awesome care of MJ and do a great job, however you both are uncle and ain't...not parent. Thanks for making me feel even more awful than I already do. This whole situation is difficult for everyone involved. You, Hubby, MJ and me however I try really hard to respect boundaries and be appreciative and respectful of you two......please try to consider my feelings in the same manner that I do you guys.I don't know if either of you comprehend how hurtful that was but it was...

And yeah, maybe it hurt her a little, but for her to deny that we're MJ's parents? That's a blow to me! So I responded (with liberal comments from Hubby about how I was too harsh, or 'oh, lets not go there' so it was highly edited):

Cin, we're her parents. We're her Aunt and Uncle, true, but we're also her parents. You really need to come to terms with that. You are her mother, and we know and accept that. But we're raising her, and plan to be doing so until she's grown and in college or has a job that will support her. Frankly, your 'sounding like parents' comment was hurtful to us, and made it sound like we were pretending to be parents. Hubby didn't intend to hurt you with his response, but your comment was also hurtful. We weren't sure how you meant your comment either. It would certainly be easier if we can get along, and we're trying to, but you can't take ONE comment from us as being disrespectful of you and start drama. Just because we're her parents now doesn't mean that you're not also her mom. Ok? When we first brought her to our home, we sat down and agreed that we're her parents. Definition of parent is: one that begets offspring, OR one that brings up and cares for another. So we're all her parents, as far as my opinion goes. We've been respectful of you. You're the one taking us as a joke.


So now that I'm rereading all of it, I'm thinking we all took offense rather easily, and it will hopefully be ironed out tomorrow with little to no drama. But knowing my sister's perchance for it, and her complete boredom at present, who knows who she's going to drag into the argument before it gets worked out. I know if she annoys me too much, I'll just delete her on FB. I warned all family that if drama was started with me, you were gone. The only reason I haven't dropped the cousin from my last post is because she's pregnant and already losing most of her friends with her offensive posts.

Just keeping you up to date, and looking for opinions and comments. Thanks, goodnight!

Baby Daddy Drama

My cousin and I had a conversation about my sister hitting on her then-boyfriend. Keep in mind this was probably near to a year ago, and she is NO LONGER with the man now. I want your thoughts on these kind of things. I mean, I don't like incest, and the idea of a man that's stuck his dick in my sister(s) sticking his dick into me is too close to incest for me. But I don't think it's fair to limit a partner's potential mate pool simply because they once fucked with you. Here's the conversation. What do you think?

• C:
• So... I heard Cin is out of jail now.
• C:
• Have you dealt with anything from her yet?
• C:
  

  Oh hell no, Cin is sending friend requests to K and I've seen with my own eyes what her motives are with him. And I'm not taking that shit.
• R:
  

  Uh. I think she's just lonely right now. I'm trying to be cautiously hopeful about her. Besides, I thought you and K were through?
• C:
  

  Yeah I mean we're not together but I've seen her messages towards him before she left which said and I quote "if you and C weren't fucking around I'd show you a thing or two" and she send him a request and didn't send me one. But the way I think and I've explained to her too, sisters don't mess with their guy whether they're together or not, especially if they're having a child together. I mean Cin's Husband came on to me several times and I turned him down because he was with my sister and especially because they've had children together.
• R:
  

  But that's your own view, not hers. They're both adults, if they choose to do that, it's their business. It's not something I would do, but it's not fair to try and make someone follow rules that you make about their personal lives. Men aren't objects, they're ppl too and make their own choices, just like women do.
• C:
  

  K doesn't want anything to do with her anyway. And she's told me that she and Kris fought over a guy because Kris ran around behind her back with him and they weren't together. She apparently thinks that way too. So she's made herself into a hypocrite.
• R:
  

  Still her and K's business.

  It's only your business if he's telling you he only wants you.
• C:
  

  But she told me that she'd get upset and that it's not right for sisters to do that to each other and then after that, she advances towards K.
• R:
  

  *shrug* Her and Kris have both said something along those lines to Hubby, and it doesn't bother me.

  If he wants them, he'll let me know and we can discuss it. He doesn't want them, therefor we take it as a joke and let it go.
• C:
  

  And like I said he told me he wants nothing to do with her anyway. And I don't see how it couldn't. Jess has actually ATTEMPTED to fuck around with K not just with words. I mean that makes me feel betrayed because they're supposed to act like sisters, not some shady chick friend
• R:
  

  Ummmm...... I've never felt jealousy, so it doesn't bother me. Hubby's not a possession. It bothers me when it bothers him and he asks (usually with his eyes) for me to save him, and that's when I step in. I'm possessive, but it's mostly a joking possessiveness.
• C:
  

  I'm not gonna lie, I have insecurities. I would never to that to my sister or even a relative at that. Or a friend.
• R:
  

  If both parties agree they're no longer in a relationship, then the man is fair game.

  or Woman

  whichever
• C:
  

  I dunno, I just don't think like that.
• R:
  

  I think it's disrespectful and rude to think you should continue to control what your previous partner is allowed to do after you've stopped being together.
• C:
  

  And apparently neither does Cin but she also made herself into a hypocrite. And it would be one thing, if the man and the woman both agreed not to be together but if one was hurt by that person and their friend or family member decided to date them that would be kinda messed up
• R: Depends on the relationship between the relatives. For the most part, what happens in a relationship is limited to the two ppl in the relationship. It's not fair to the relative to expect them to pick a side when they weren't along for the ride of the whole relationship.

  This is only adult relationships I'm referring to here. Children are a whole different catch of fish

  Why are you upset that she's offered to friend him?

  Does she even know you two aren't together anymore?

  Remember, she's only been out like, three days. Who would tell her your business?
• C: Because of her disrespectful, hypocritical intentions before. And because he wants nothing to do with her.
• R: So he won't friend her, and it won't go beyond that, probably

  Most people are hypocritical. It's something you have to get used to.

  Especially if you're gonna be a mom.

  And it's not like she said 'Uh, I know you're with C, but I want your dick now. Come here sexy man'

  She said that if he weren't with you (and he is not now), that she wouldn't mind doing the hanky pank with him.
• C: I can't stand hypocrisy x.x
• R Man's life is hypocrisy.
• 
  

  C: We weren't together then but we were looking around. But I'm tired so I'll finish this convo tomorrow lol g'night

  *fooling
• 
  

  R: Alrightie. Goodnight.

And that was that. I mean, I do understand it feels like a betrayal, but it shouldn't. That's how family fueds get started, and excessive drama. If you break up with someone, they're not yours to dictate to anymore. It may hurt for a while, but the only one who can fix that is yourself. I don't know. What do you guys think?

Dance Team, GO!

MJ is trying out for the 'Golden Goddess Dance Team' and wanted me there today for the final day of tryouts. I got bored watching the girls make the same mistakes over and over, and was barely refraining from learning it for myself, because it was an interesting dance. MJ assured me there would be no booty-shaking in this team, because 'My coach said we're only middle schoolers and shouldn't be doing that kind of thing.' I really like her coach. He's funny but strict, and the dancing he choreographs is suggestive without being lewd.
What else.... MJ is impressive in that when the music starts is when she really becomes alive. Without music, she's okay, but her performance jumps when she's got music to jam to. It was cool to watch. Yesterday after her tryout, some girls asked if I was her mom, and she gave a hesitant 'yes'. They commented that we look like twins. Our hair is very similar but we don't have much else in common.
I had an interview today. IF they're interested in me, they'll ask to me shadow for an hour sometime a week or two from now. I don't know my odds, but I'm a little hopeful.
I notice my behavior changes when I have something to look forward to. I did all the laundry yesterday, made dinner, and cleaned the bathroom just from that call. It'd be nice if I could find something to look forward to in every day, but life can be pretty boring if you don't have to do a lot of things.

So, little note here about my sisters. Oldest (mother of boys), is in the hospital because of her heart. She's been delving into drugs rather heavily in the last few weeks, and it's probably put a strain on her heart. She's like, 34 or something now, and she's always treated her body rather shabbily, so I can understand it, but I'm not particularly upset. She hasn't called me, and she hasn't done anything to make me care since she betrayed everyone a few weeks ago and disappeared. I'm not really tempted to call her at all, except that while writing this I've started to feel guilty. Maybe I'll call her tomorrow.
The next one (MJ's mother) is getting out of jail next week. She had tons of money on our phone number to call, but she hasn't called at all this week, though she called 3 or 4 times last week. I'm disappointed, and a little relieved because she always called while I was sleeping.
My brother is doing well. Uncle Johnny is in jail (he's been living with Bubba) after holding up a CVS, and so Bubba has the place to himself. My mom has been remodeling it for him, making it nice to live in. She came up over the weekend and helped us pick out and move some bigger furniture we wouldn't have been able to get otherwise, like a beautiful desk and wicker entertainment center. I still want to spray paint the entertainment center a color that isn't white, but I'm less adamant about making it black now. It'd be hard to come back from black.
Our closet is getting full of things that we don't need right now, like clothes and toys and such that we aren't really ready to unpack.
I've taken to documenting all the crazy creepy-crawlies that I find and kill here. Spiders, Millipedes, Centipedes, rolly-pollies bigger than my pinkie, all sorts of shit. I have a spider bite on my arm that isn't healing very well. It's still about the size of a quarter, but now it's purplish and looks like a bruise. I really thought it would heal quicker than that, and it still itches and stings sometimes.
That's all. My eyes are tired, so I'm gonna stop now. I feel vaguely depressed, dissatisfied, unhappy, and angry all at once, and without any reason I can find. MJ wears on my nerves with her borderline attitude, and it's been making me snappy. Maybe that's what wears me out so much nowadays. Oh well. Oh, also: Pineapples, Shodor's Baby Daddy, I used you as references. Hope you don't mind. :X

There's gonna be a lot of music in this post, because there's a lot of interesting new music coming out lately.

This is just hilarious. "Downtown" by Macklemore.


In case this one doesn't load (I've noticed not all do) The name of it is "Growing up" by Macklemore and Ed Sheeran. It moves me, and really encapsulates being a parent to me.